8 Comments to “Sincerity”

1. Liang says:

   September 15, 2009 at 4:21 pm

   i love the soft DOF in this image, and the yellow! the color of happiness =]

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2. Chris says:

   September 15, 2009 at 5:17 pm

   Hi Evita,
   Now you are talking about routine, isn’t it… It is so easy to say these words in a routine way… Some people do not even wait for the answer! Does sincerity exist nowadays? Do people really care of each other?
   As an evolutionary biologist, I often tend to say that humanity is gonna disappear because survival of a species crucially depends on altruism and help!

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3. Lynn says:

   September 15, 2009 at 6:33 pm

   Hello Evita -

   Yes – the words “how are you” have certainly become automatic. I like to think I do mean it when I ask that, but will definitely think about that during the next few days… Thank you for a thoughtful post.

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4. SpinDiva says:

   September 15, 2009 at 8:25 pm

   Hi Evita,
   I’ve been gone for so long…to much going on. Thanks for reeling me back with such a wonderful post. We had a conversation about this just recently and we realized that most times we smile because we have to or because we feel pressured; sometimes say how are you and keep walking never really caring or hearing what the answer was.

   I have retrained myself to only ask if I have the time to stop and listen otherwise I just smile and wish them a good day or something along those lines. Still working on that a little but I’m trying.

   thanks again for the reminder.

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5. Lori says:

   September 15, 2009 at 9:57 pm

   Thanks for this very simple, yet sincere reminder about really seeing and responding to people from the heart. I sometimes have the opposite problem…I notice something special about someone and have to drum up courage to actually deliver the compliment.

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6. Walter says:

   September 16, 2009 at 12:41 am

   I wish it could be easy to practice sincerity at every encounter with another person. Human relationship is rather complex, more often than not being sincere hurts others. I think a balance practice of this virtue is important. :-)

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7. Evita says:

   September 17, 2009 at 8:37 am

   @ CHRIS – Yes, definitely Chris I am talking more about routine than someone who is manipulative or say “evil” on purpose. We fall into these unconscious routines in our lives on so many levels. We think we are alive, but are we really living?

   That is something to consider as well….

   @ SPINDIVA – Welcome back! Whatever the reason for being gone, I think it is nice sometimes to just take a break from the Internet, or computer or blogging in general. I know I take such breaks when I go away on vacation. They are short, but very valuable none the less :)

   @ LORI – That is so beautiful to hear. It is amazing that you see perhaps the beauty of someone first. I would say definitely speak it out to them, as it declares to the universe that you are a kind, loving person and you get more of that, plus on the other hand you are able to have a positive effect on someone and that is priceless today :)

   @ WALTER – That is an interesting point you mention Walter. But I wonder is the being sincere you talk about telling someone for example that they have “bad hair” (for example).

   With this in mind, I have two ideas:
   1) When we look at another, focus on the best part of them. It is not for them that you are doing this, but for yourself. Think of how much better you will feel. Positive thoughts and emotions are very healing to us on so many levels. And there is always something great about something or someone else.

   And 2) I know this may not work for all, but I really stick by being truthful and transparent. We as a society have been playing the deception game long enough I think. So if there is something we feel strongly about and feel the need to voice, I say speak your truth. Again many people think you are doing this for the other person, but you aren’t. You are doing it for you first. Problems arise in our lives when we suppress our own truths.

   So that is something to consider too perhaps…

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8. Robin Easton says:

   September 17, 2009 at 12:56 pm

   Hi dear Evita, first off I LOVED your comment on my last post. Just stunning and so life affirming for me. I just love you; you are sooooo fearlessly alive and I relate completely to that!!

   Now, this post of yours I find fascinating. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone write about this. About BEING sincere, yes, but about how sincere are you?, no, I’ve not seen that.

   My husband says I am so sincere I go around treating people I don’t even know as I’d known them for years. I can’t seem to help myself, especially if I see someone who looks tired, sad, stressed or ill, I just want to reach out and comfort, even if only in a small way. And if they are happy and funny and joyous I just want to be part of the play and will dive right in the fray with them. LOL!!

   I love what you wrote about it being easier to be genuine that false. It is SOOO much easier. It’s so draining in fact to NOT be myself that it would distress me terribly. I’m not even sure I know how to be other than ME.

   I’m the sort of person if someone asks, how are you, I usually tell them how I really am, tired, sad because my mom is dying, happy because I’m alive, whatever. And I LOVE how this draws them out to be more honest about how they are REALLY feeling.

   Very intriguing post this one. I like that.
   Much love to you, you very beautiful soul.
   Robin

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